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2011-02-08 18-06-20

as many of you know i am going to my first kink related event tonight, a 2 hour scarf bondage class with midori, and have been nothing but excited about it since signing the SO and i up on monday. but now that the event is only a few hours away, i have butterflies. where did these come from? what am i afraid of? it's more social anxiety than actual concern about the class, but it's here. i guess i'm most worried that it will be painfully obvious i've never done this sort of thing before, that i will be the 'newbie' and stick out and wear the wrong thing, say the wrong thing, that the scarves and sashes i'm planning on bringing won't be the 'right' kind, etc etc. i KNOW this is all irrational, that everything will be just fine, but those pesky butterflies keep beating their little wings, sending dread and doubt flooding through my system. has anyone else ever had, for lack of a better term, stage fright before something like this?
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2011-02-09 12-12-35

yes, and while I dread it.... I totally love the excitment and fear! How long has it been since you have done something new? How long has it been since you have felt this way? You know it's going to be just kind of revel in this fluttery nervous goodness! Seriously, I get nervous/anxious/excited eberytime I play...for the entire week leading up to it sometimes! It's always amazing, and my fears are never warranted, but the excitment sure is! Be stoked, it's something worth being stoked about!
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2011-02-10 1-55-34-

you're right it's been a while since i've done something new. and part of the thrill of doing something like this is the fear of something new. and then being able to overcome it. and i really do know it will all be ok, especially with the particular class we're going to. both the facilities and the instructor have nothing but glowing reviews. none of this is helped by the fact that this is day freaking of orgasm denial (set to end when we get home and practice what we are learn). it adds to my nervousness about the class because i'm sure i would normally be turned on quite a bit, but now i'm afraid i might just lose it in the middle of class!
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2011-02-10 15-45-00

tee hee...oh, that would be so very entertaining for everyone there! I think he really needs to let you come very soon, seriously...from all that I have heard and experienced, orgasm denil like this for a woman isn't all that effective.
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2011-02-11 8-23-50-

we've done three days before with good results, and i've done it with myself before, i think it will be alright. the plan is to buy a new toy (the class is conveniently taught in an adult toy store!), tie me up using our newly learned skills, and have him give me as many as i can take and then some.
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    2011-02-11 20-29-32

    good, I just don't want him to think that is all there is about controlling them. There are other ways to make your orgasms his becides just denial. Lots of women will lose interest in even coming at all if it is denied too are different. Generally, and IME, orgasm control for the woman is better achieved by giving her many, or at specific times, having a Schedule, or routine to them that makes sure when she has one, she thinks of you.
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    2011-02-11 20-45-01

    yeah, we're just starting to reall delve into it we want to mix up denial with forced orgasms, and he knows it doesn't have to be a lengthy affair like this time. single session denial is just as fun, with quicker payoff! but he wanted to make me go a full week this time, since we just made everything official, and the timing with the class made it seem perfect. he actually gave me the option on thursday of cutting it short, and i opted not to. he also wants to order me to masturbate next week, and then him afterwards to tell him all about it (while he's at work). i gave him some stuff to read and he is taking it very seriously. he's so cute!
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    2011-02-12 14-23-52

    Everyone is going to laugh and make fun of you. Haha You know I am teasing you. You'll be fine. People will know you're new and hopefully give you some latitude. My first time in the Gothic club was filled with the same anxiety. I wondered; Was I Gothic enough? Was I wearing the right clothing? Did I look like just a faker? You'll be fine :-) Hey Patience.
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    2011-02-15 15-13-17

    hey there! 'there all going to laugh at you' do you even realize the movie reference in that, you youngin' ;)
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    2011-03-24 14-43-36

    there = they're in the quote, oops
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    2011-04-12 0-24-59-

    No need for typo corrections I don't think you're an idiot because you make a typo. :-P Don't know the movie reference although I think remember hearing it but can't remember where. I was going to it but that'd be cheating so I'll let you tell me. Youngin'? Exactly how old are you anyway? I thought you were also a youngin'?
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    2011-04-12 6-30-53-

    i am also a youngin', just not as much of as you :P i'm x. and the quote is from carrie.
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    2011-05-25 17-47-33

    I saw parts of that one Saw the bloody ending but not the entire movie. Hope your event turns out a little better than hers. I see how the quote is funny now. Haha *prepares buckets of pigs blood*
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    2011-10-09 7-02-17-

    ahhh good old butterflies... nothing wrong with them and not much you can do but enjoy them ;-) But since it is a class there will be all kinds of participants from newbies to pros so don't worry about looking like a newbie - that's why you're there (to learn) and that alone makes you very cool!
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    2011-11-29 8-59-28-

    thanks for the encouragement like i said, my brain knows everything will be ok, but the butterflies aren't listening to it. i'm sure i'll have a blast!
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    2012-02-14 3-48-44-

    Most people will be inexperienced, right, or they wouldn't be taking a class... I presume? Unless it's advertised as a class for advanced people. Your scarves can't be wrong because they're yours. I mean, they're what you have. Even if some other scarf was "better" for tying, so what? You want to be tied with what you have! So it's the class's job to make those scarves work for you. Have a good breakfast, don't have too much coffee. ;) You'll love it! Don't forget to report back...
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    2012-11-09 7-26-37-

    i'm making breakfast in bed for the SO in a bit he's had a rough time at work and he's being a real good partner lately, he deserves some pampering. plus, i want him in the best mood possible for this class! and i really truly do know everything will be ok, i just have this twinge of panic. and thanks!
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